some of my favorite youtube clips
If black people going to college was the hope and the dream of the slaves.......this was their nightmare. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_q_uUW7MV6A
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3KaClIF1ehQ keep her in your prayers.
http://www.funnyordie.com/videos/3a4e6478a6/jojo-of-kc-and-jojo-passes-out-on-stage-from-that-happened no love like a brothers love
Friday, August 27, 2010
Thursday, August 26, 2010
How to be a Cheat
Someone sent this to me anonousmly asking adivce. Thought I would share with you.
His Question (ladies don't get mad):
My wife and I have been together for a while, and she knows that I'm a lot more sexual than she is. We have always been very open about things and she knows that I have a lot of fantasies that aren't necessarily shared. She has hinted that if I want to persue them, just do it and don't tell her about it.Well I never really have. But, I've barely been able to contain myself. I have an old friend of my family who I haven't talked to in years and is now close to where I live in college and I want to head down there and just have a wild time.Do you have any experience like this, do you think she's just saying that.Am I risking anything bringing it back up and making sure she doesn't want to hear about it?I just want to have a good time but I want to do it the right way.
My advice to him:
To begin, when dealing with emotions and relationships there are seldom win-win situations. I say that to say, whatever course of action you choose to take will have consequences. One of these unexpected consequences is often the fact that once an individual gets a taste of the “fantasy world,” often one’s sexual appetite does not dissipate but grows louder and stronger. There is an excitement and freedom that surrounds “no strings attached sex” that can often prove very addictive.
The other side of the coin is that if you don’t find a way to sexually express yourself, these thoughts can often become all-consuming and cause you to view your spouse as a barrier or obstacle to your happiness as opposed to a helpmate.
In order to determine the best course of action, you must first have a 99.9% understanding of who you are. The first question you must ask yourself is are you someone that is able to live by your own moral code or do you live by the moral code of others. For example, in the past have you been someone who felt guilty for weeks regarding lying to your wife and/or keeping secrets, or do you live by the notion of “what she don’t know won’t hurt her?” Also, are you someone who cannot keep a secret? Do you and your spouse have the type of relationship where you talk about everything? If this is your type of relationship, it is very dangerous to assume that this one particular situation would be different. If you normally tell her everything, then it is likely that, good or bad, you will also have a strong, almost uncontrollable desire, to share this indiscretion.
No matter what your wife told you, most, and I MEAN ALMOST ALL, women don’t want you having sex without them. When a woman says, “go ahead, just make sure I don’t find out”....she is NOT GIVING YOU PERMISSION...she is just re-enforcing to you that like in any situation with infidelity she will leave you when she finds out...SHE IS JUST RESTATING THE OBVIOUS.
Which brings me to “her finding out”...... Women are 10 times more in tune with their men then they are with themselves or you are in tune with yourself. In my personal view, you are more likely to be caught cheating than you are likely to get away with it. If you go through with this, you must come home the exact same, any changes will alert her that something has happened. Some women require evidence, some will just go with their own intuition. Ironically, must men, like most criminals, just confess. If you do go through with it, make sure you erase all emails, text messages, phone calls and put a lock on your phone....I wouldn’t even use my name...
So to answer your question, if by not participating in these desires, you are becoming overly consumed and a distance is forming between you and your wife and you are someone who can keep a secret and will not have a moral internal conflict resulting in endless guilt and you believe that you can limit these sexual encounters to once a year......then go for it.....but please have the good sense to use protection...I should also warn you not to set your expectations to high, setting up these encounters take a lot of work. Finding the right person or persons for a random encounter is often very difficult. (which is why most people set the encounters up online using various websites on their home computers; which is also why most people get caught). Just go on the weekend trip with the thought that if something happens cool, if not cool.
However, if you have a happy marriage and this is the only portion that needs work and you are not overly consumed and you and your wife are building something beautiful. DON’T FUCK IT UP.....statistically speaking, you will likely be found out.....if you are, you will have destroyed the trust, your wife will NEVER EVER EVER look at you in the same way again. She will never forgive you and will always feel inadequate and use this against you for every wrong ever done to her and every wrong that will be done in the future. She will likely divorce you and cause you severe financial hardship.
His Question (ladies don't get mad):
My wife and I have been together for a while, and she knows that I'm a lot more sexual than she is. We have always been very open about things and she knows that I have a lot of fantasies that aren't necessarily shared. She has hinted that if I want to persue them, just do it and don't tell her about it.Well I never really have. But, I've barely been able to contain myself. I have an old friend of my family who I haven't talked to in years and is now close to where I live in college and I want to head down there and just have a wild time.Do you have any experience like this, do you think she's just saying that.Am I risking anything bringing it back up and making sure she doesn't want to hear about it?I just want to have a good time but I want to do it the right way.
My advice to him:
To begin, when dealing with emotions and relationships there are seldom win-win situations. I say that to say, whatever course of action you choose to take will have consequences. One of these unexpected consequences is often the fact that once an individual gets a taste of the “fantasy world,” often one’s sexual appetite does not dissipate but grows louder and stronger. There is an excitement and freedom that surrounds “no strings attached sex” that can often prove very addictive.
The other side of the coin is that if you don’t find a way to sexually express yourself, these thoughts can often become all-consuming and cause you to view your spouse as a barrier or obstacle to your happiness as opposed to a helpmate.
In order to determine the best course of action, you must first have a 99.9% understanding of who you are. The first question you must ask yourself is are you someone that is able to live by your own moral code or do you live by the moral code of others. For example, in the past have you been someone who felt guilty for weeks regarding lying to your wife and/or keeping secrets, or do you live by the notion of “what she don’t know won’t hurt her?” Also, are you someone who cannot keep a secret? Do you and your spouse have the type of relationship where you talk about everything? If this is your type of relationship, it is very dangerous to assume that this one particular situation would be different. If you normally tell her everything, then it is likely that, good or bad, you will also have a strong, almost uncontrollable desire, to share this indiscretion.
No matter what your wife told you, most, and I MEAN ALMOST ALL, women don’t want you having sex without them. When a woman says, “go ahead, just make sure I don’t find out”....she is NOT GIVING YOU PERMISSION...she is just re-enforcing to you that like in any situation with infidelity she will leave you when she finds out...SHE IS JUST RESTATING THE OBVIOUS.
Which brings me to “her finding out”...... Women are 10 times more in tune with their men then they are with themselves or you are in tune with yourself. In my personal view, you are more likely to be caught cheating than you are likely to get away with it. If you go through with this, you must come home the exact same, any changes will alert her that something has happened. Some women require evidence, some will just go with their own intuition. Ironically, must men, like most criminals, just confess. If you do go through with it, make sure you erase all emails, text messages, phone calls and put a lock on your phone....I wouldn’t even use my name...
So to answer your question, if by not participating in these desires, you are becoming overly consumed and a distance is forming between you and your wife and you are someone who can keep a secret and will not have a moral internal conflict resulting in endless guilt and you believe that you can limit these sexual encounters to once a year......then go for it.....but please have the good sense to use protection...I should also warn you not to set your expectations to high, setting up these encounters take a lot of work. Finding the right person or persons for a random encounter is often very difficult. (which is why most people set the encounters up online using various websites on their home computers; which is also why most people get caught). Just go on the weekend trip with the thought that if something happens cool, if not cool.
However, if you have a happy marriage and this is the only portion that needs work and you are not overly consumed and you and your wife are building something beautiful. DON’T FUCK IT UP.....statistically speaking, you will likely be found out.....if you are, you will have destroyed the trust, your wife will NEVER EVER EVER look at you in the same way again. She will never forgive you and will always feel inadequate and use this against you for every wrong ever done to her and every wrong that will be done in the future. She will likely divorce you and cause you severe financial hardship.
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