Cain vs. Able part 1 of 2

After reading a few of the comments generated by my posts regarding homosexual traits, I now realize that there is some confusion amongst my “sit to piss” friends. It seems that a lot of ladies are using “closeted” and “down low” interchangeably. This is understandable since both are lay terms and have no established definitions. However, this can lead to very dangerous misinterpretations when assessing a person’s deceit level. I hope the next two posts provide some much needed clarity.

Gaysha’s Definition of Down Low or DL: A man who has come to 1) a firm decision(in his mind) that he is sexually attracted to members of the same sex, 2) has acted on it and 3) intends to act on it in the future.

Gaysha’s Definition of a Closeted Man: A man who, 1) in his own heart believes he may be attracted to men, but has never acted on it, or if he has, it has been few and far between and 2) who intends to live his life as a heterosexual, for whatever reasons (i.e. religious, family etc). The list of traits I previously provided will help one identify both the closeted and down low(DL) man, however, one's level of compassion and understanding for each type of man should be polar opposites.

The DL man is deceitful and is a pathological liar. He is dangerous because he thinks “not getting caught” is a game. He is overly confident and thinks of his wife/girlfriend as a fool or under his thumb. He thinks of his gay lovers as disposable toys or play things. Normally, he is the worst of the spoiled “mama’s boys.” The DL brotha loves being the unattainable in the gay community and the “poster boy” for the strong black man in the heterosexual community.

Because the DL man’s ego is so inflated, he has an exaggerated sense of self. And because he hasn’t been caught, he feels like luck is on his side. Unfortunately, this lucky feeling, the feeling that nothing bad can or will happen to him, often translates to him having unprotected homosexual sex. The ironic thing about the DL man is that because of his enlarged ego, in many ways he wants to get caught. He wants to be able to say to his wife/girlfriend out loud, what he thinks in his head “fuck you, you not going anywhere.” And the sad truth is that his assumption is often right. This type of man preys on women with low self esteem, limited resources and lack of family support. After finding such a woman, it is the DL man’s first priority to get his woman pregnant, thus ensuring her submissiveness and the clipping of her wings.

Another technique used by this type of man is to find a woman that is not “equally” suited to him. This woman doesn’t know why he chose her and nobody else does either. He is generally more attractive, successful and extroverted than his mate. He lives for an audience. This is all done to reinforce the timeless abusers’ mantra “if you leave, you will never find another like me.” To be clear, this is not the modus operandi (MO) of just the DL man, this is essentially the recipe of most domestic abusers. And that is just want a DL man is, an abuser.

To be continued. ………..