Truth Begets Truth

One of my dear friends is desperately fighting an inner battle with his sexuality, which is ironic to me because in my eyes he is a fa-lam-innnnng homosexual, but to a less discerning eye (i.e. White women) he is perfect heterosexual marriage material.

Not sure if you are aware, but closeted Black male homosexuals and White women go together like hand and glove. To a "professional gay" (i.e. someone like myself who has been in the game a while and is not easily fooled by outward appearances) it is one of the first tell-tale signs. It's not White womens' fault; they are just less able to determine which characteristics are cultural and which are sexual. When you date outside of your race, there is always a cloud of confusion that you have to accept when it comes to trying to figure out what is unique to your man or woman and what is just a "Black Thang", or "White Thang" or "Jewish Thang" (I would say "Mexican Thang", but "come on" does anybody really date Mexicans other than Mexicans). It's not that Black women won't date and marry an obvious homosexual -- any southern church goer or member of Alpha Kappa Alpha can attest to the fact that it's done, repeatedly; it's just Black women have a clue and are somewhat consciously looking the other way, whereas White woman are permanent residents of Wonderland. It is this cluelessness that makes them all the more attractive to the closeted Black man. But I digress.

For the last few months, I have been getting my Oprah on. I have been daily hounding my friend to live an authentic life. Anyone who knows me, knows that one of the chief principles that I live by is that Truth Begets Truth. When you lie, conceal, omit, mislead and deceive, you are giving others a pass to do the same to you. Only a TRUE FOOL thinks that they are doing it so well that the other party doesn't know. Others might not know the details of your deceit but they know you are hiding something, and in return, they too hide something. When you are open and honest, you immediately let the other person know that you value them, that you are not perfect and that you trust them.

So after months and months of constant "Oprahing", my friend finally decided to share his "bi-sexuality." (I will save the topic of alleged "bi-sexuality" for another day). Although the young lady was not pleased, she was happy that the information was shared with her. She let my friend know that she was in love with him and willing to try to work through anything to make the relationship work. She asked him was he currently dating men and he assured her that he was dating her exclusively and committed to making things work.

Chileeeee, you know the story didn't end there (Hell, the title of this post is what, Truth Begets ____). So after pouring his heart out and receiving the type of acceptance that he thought existed only in marriages to Will Smith (oops), she begets her truth. Homegirl tells my friend that she has an incurable STD. (Yes she did girl, YES SHE DID, faces were cracked).....But wait......I'm not finished.........They have been having unprotected sex for at least a month........(usher, pass me a fan, cause Imma bout to faint)..........She said she didn't tell him cause she hasn't had an outbreak in a while and didn't feel the need to share the information until the relationship was more serious (i.e. truth begets truth).

Now here is the real question.......When you beget your truth and find acceptance.......Do you have to give acceptance in return.... he feels like he owes her acceptance.....I didn't know what to say (Really, I did know what to say but I didn't want him to use anything I said against me in case he ends up marring this girl).......so I told him I knew a very, very, veryyyyyyyyyyyyyyy opinionated group of individuals (who don't do shit all day at work but surf the web) who would surely have the answer...........Sooooooooooooo.....

What do y'all think?